I’m insecure
My gf (18F) and me (19M)have been in a relationship for about a year now.
I’m being overly insecure.. I was never like this in my past relationships.. whose fault is this?
Some events that I believe has made me insecure:
My gf had a lot..LIKE A LOT of male friends and they all were pretty close to her.. like she posted a pic with one of them while holding hands when we were in the first month of the relationship.
She used to constantly send me SS of guys flirting with me..
One boy (18M) in particular went overboard and I had to go and meet the boy personally with him and things were ugly ..
After some weeks she again sent me ss of that boy flirting with her .. I was genuinely surprised and asked her “You didn’t block him yet?” (I supposed that she’d have blocked him already) .. she said “No I like those flirts” .. that line still rings in my head.
She still has some “close” male friends.. including the boy she was holding hands with.. I never talked to her about this.. I mean.. she herself should understand that this is wrong, rt? She’s not a child and I’m not her babysitter or parent who’ll make her understand what’s good or bad.
There are many more instances like this.
Recently her family went on a trip with some 2-3 other families there’s a boy (20M) whom she was friends with before me.
Here’s some insight to better understand the situation:
I met her in one of these trips 1 year ago, she still had a bf at that time (whom she was on bad terms with, atleast that’s what she said to me afterwards) .. but thing is when she was still in a relationship.. She was basically together with that boy the whole trip.. I couldn’t care much at that moment cuz we were not in a relationship..
Now the thing is she went again on a trip with him..
(Keep in mind what she did previously, when she has a bf but still was lingering around that guy?) I saw a vid where they are walking together and now I’m confused.
It’s funny because that guy told me some pretty terrible and dirty things to be about her some months .. which I informed her about (ofcourse) .. but surprisingly she didn’t seem affected at all.
Who is in the fault here?
If some has any trouble understanding the situation.. or have any questions.. please dm or comment
**TL;DR;** : My gf actions make me incredibly insecure, wanna know how tackle the situation.
I literally have no one to talk to about this..
I REALLY NEED SOME HELP OR ADVICE RN