tl:dr – disconnecting from my relationship because I feel like my boyfriend won’t grow up.
I (26F) feel like I’m disconnecting from my relationship half the time recently. My boyfriend (27M) and I have been together for 2 years. I love him so much but I feel like we’re not on the same page or growth stages in our lives.
I’m 3 years into my tech job, he just finished graduating from grad school and never worked a full time job. I feel like he’s just “coasting” and refuses to grow or hold himself accountable.
He doesn’t have a sleep schedule (wakes up at 1/2 pm almost everyday), can’t do basic household chores within a timely manner (like takes days to do tasks) but has time for his hobbies all the time (golf, video games, hockey and etc), he double books himself often and won’t remember until he gets reminded from the other person and then flakes/cancel on the other. Idk I understand if he was in his early 20s cause that was me but there comes a time where you need to put your big boy/girl’s pants on and get your shit together.
And I feel like he knows all of it but just refuses to do it and driving me insane and I vocalized it before but I’m disconnecting because I’m not seeing any improvement or trying at all.
So appreciate any advice if you’ve gone through something similar from either sides and how you handled it ?
Cause I hate feeling this way cause I’m independent so it frustrates me when other people aren’t or can’t hold themselves accountable and I feel like it’s creating a divide and disconnection.
Thank you!