Have you ever acted on this kinda of guilt?
My husband thinks he does everything to the top when doing for me. Like getting a dishwasher that he will never use. So he thinks he order the best but it’s not the one I would have chosen.
I said to him I would have preferred the other model. He gave be the third degree! That I’m always negative about what he wants for me and he isn’t ever good enough.
The dishwasher he chose isn’t a model that would do what I want when getting dishes loaded for the room I need.
I didn’t see this coming out of no where. He went off on me.
Now this morning he feels guilty to act so rediculous he wants to plan a trip to get away.
He always hides his wrong by covering or making excuses for his behavior.
This happens all the time.
His excuse to over look what and how he put me down was not to say I’m sorry it was I need a trip.
He does have this ongoing perception about me.
When he is doing something that doesn’t make no sense and he knows it doesn’t days later but I address it the day it’s happening so we don’t have to go back and redo what needs to be done.
He says well I’m not good enough for you that’s his excuse for what he knows he should’ve done to begin with and didn’t.
It doesn’t make sense to just let it go. It’s like having Books in the middle of the kitchen floor and saying this is where we can store them but yet there’s a storage room and you can put the books to store!! It doesn’t make sense to me.
This issue makes me have night mares about what our marriage will be in years to come.
I can handle the stress but can he handle reasonable decisions without finding fault with me that has nothing to do with the current situation?
If it isn’t practical and cost more on top of that I can’t just look the other way because he thinks his manhood is being insulted.