I need advice. I’ve made a few friend groups this year but they keep dying. I made a book club that devolved into a social group and now it’s just me and one other person. I started attending a board game group but again, all members left except one other person. I feel like people complain about being lonely but then don’t show up regularly to social outings to keep the spirit alive.
The social groups that do stay active tend to be toxic for me. I left 2 toxic groups this year; one group would become very mean whenever someone was doing poor financially and the other group was very male centered women that changed their behavior when men where around and tolerated a lot of abuse.
I don’t have a super big problem making friends. I find myself doing the heavy lifting as the relationships progress unless someone wants something from me. How do I find people that want to invest in socializing?