My wife fantasizes about pegging me! Wtf?!?

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1. Have a drink and assume the position. Doesn’t make you gay. Just get something out of it, like getting your go at “pegging” her! Or whatever else you want.

2. Guys, Is it gay to have sex with my wife?

   Sexual practices alone do not make you gay. Who you do it with does. If you are imagining a man behind you instead of your wife, you might be gay. Otherwise, just enjoy exploring things with your wife because she wants to make you feel good!

3. Assuming your wife is a female, nothing about this is gay or bi.

   Do it if you feel like doing it, don’t if you don’t.

4. Give her my number if you guys ever break up!

5. Definitely not gay, that would be engaging in sex or intimacy or a relationship with a same sex person, which is totally fine, it’s 2024 👍🏻. I’d give it a go, if you don’t like it at least you know. Remember, male G spot is the bum, I think it would feel good but my wife has never mentioned it so I wouldn’t. But if she did, count me in 👍🏻

6. It has nothing to do with your sexual preferences. It has everything to do with getting your prostate (aka male G-spot) pounded until you see stars, can’t remember your name, and explode with more ejaculate than you’ve ever seen. It’s awesome. I brought it up while sexting with my wife, she ordered the strap, and we’ve had some fun a couple of times. There’s lots of articles and posts on prep work and what you need to know. Go to r/pegging or just search pegging or prostate on Reddit. You’ll find all you need to know. Have fun!

7. I am a “raving hetrosexual” and I am completely confident about it – I am also totally relaxed about it. We have talked about this a little bit, as a fun thing to try. I like assplay and my wife is into it too. We haven’t tried pegging but I can assure you it does not “make you gay”.

   Nothing can make you gay. You are either gay or you are not. And you can be 100% straight and enjoy it. Relax, live, don’t worry about masculinity or being macho or not. If you think you are a man then you are – no validation needed.

8. As others have said, there’s nothing gay about it. Personally, I wouldn’t recommend jumping straight into pegging though. Start by letting her slip a finger up your ass while she’s giving you a blowjob. It feels amazing, and will let you both decide if you want to experiment further.

9. Sexual orientation isn’t determined by activity, it’s determined by the gender of the participants. If your wife does something to you, it’s straight, because you’re a man and she’s a woman. It’s that simple.

   Or, I mean. Sure, let’s go by the idea that activity determines orientation. Putting your penis in something is always straight, right? So if you fuck a gay man in his ass, you’re straight. Because this makes logical sense.

   Like I said, orientation is determined by participants, not activity.

10. haha is your wife a feminist?

11. >If it happens, does this mean I’m gay?

    Do you understand what it means to be gay?

    >Have any straight guys dealt with this?

    Nope. Never in the whole history of the world or the 1,000s of posts on this sub regarding pegging has a single straight male ever participated in pegging. </s>

    If you are not into it, then you are not into it. Nobody should pressure you into doing something that you don’t want to do. If you want to do it, then do it. There are tons of articles and posts about pegging you can read up on.

12. It’s not gay. As a guy, you have a thing called a prostate that shares a thin wall between it and your intestines. It feels good when pressure is applied to it. Feeling good is not gay. Ever take a really good shit that just feels great after? Did that make you gay because your butt felt good?

    Being gay/bi is wanting a person with a real organic dick to have sex with you. No action is inherently gay or straight, it literally has to do with who you do it with.

    Now it’s completely valid to not want something up your rear end, it’s not pleasurable for everyone and your GF should respect that. Just don’t let fear of being gay be your determining factor.

    If she wants to peg you, she probably has a desire to take some control in the bedroom.

13. The first time you tried a vegetable, did you think you were automatically a vegetarian? I’m sure you didn’t. You were trying it to see what it tasted like, and to see if you liked it.

    The same goes for sex. If you don’t try new things, you will never know what you enjoy. It doesn’t make you gay or bi to try something that society(A religious portion of society, that is.), has deemed to be non-heterosexual/gay/bi. And really, so what if it falls into that category, and you enjoy it, does it make you a bad person…nope.

    If you can get out of your head, let your wife peg you. You might really enjoy it or you may not, either way, you will know for next time, and you will have fulfilled her fantasy.

14. Nothing to worry about. Relax and ride the ride. If she’s doing it, it’s so far from gay lol. Even if it wasn’t, oh well. The important thing is it’s happening together.

15. Dude, i am a guy and really want to have anal sex with my girlfriend. She is not into it though and does not have interest in trying.

    However, she is turned on by the thought of trying out butt stuff on me. So we both don’t want to receive it but we both want to give it.

    We are 5 years together now and we agreed to try out butt stuff on each others. I will be able to fuck her in the ass. However, she will also fuck me in the ass. It is the price i pay. Nothing about this is gay by definition because we are not the same gender.

    Don’t know why you are even afraid of it being gay because if you don’t like dicks then you don’t like dicks.

    If you don’t want to get fucked in the ass then you don’t want to get fucked in the ass. It is your right to refuse sexual things you don’t want to try. Nobody should be forced to try out new stuff and she has to accept it.

    But maybe you will like it. Maybe not. Maybe you don’t want to try it. Maybe you want to try it but only if you are allowed to try out one of your phantasies too. Just talk about it.

    And don’t be scared of being gay because it won’t magically make you want men and also BEING GAY IS NO FUCKING PROBLEM 🙂

16. I’m right there with you. I’m definitely curious about the prostate orgasm I’ve read about (mostly here) but can’t bring myself to do it or ask my wife about it because it does seem a little gay to me.

    Also, I don’t want my wife to think I’m a weirdo or like less of a man, and also I don’t really see putting myself in that much of a vulnerable position. So I’ll not likely ever experience it

17. Why ? Why would it be gay to try something new ? I mean man equivalent of G-spot is the prostate. Try butt stuff for fun if you dont like well that’s it. If you do, it just opens a whole new world for your sexuality

18. Not understanding how your wife pleasuring you has anything at all yo do with your sexuality outside of your attraction to said wife

19. lets turn it around a bit. do u like anal? like do u want to put ur cucumba in her donut hole? dies it make u gay that ur puttin it in a donut or does it make ur partner gay for takin it in the backdoor? long story short ur gay if u are gay if ur not then ur not easy. actions dont make u something. either u are or not

20. It sounds like you’ve heard some really dumb things from some dumb people, the only thing that makes you gay is being sexually attracted to men. You should not be avoiding doing anything just because you think it makes you gay, if you want to do it then do it you shouldn’t care if it makes you gay. Honestly stimulating your prostate is gonna feel amazing and you should absolutely try it, but heavy emphasis on try it, don’t just dive into getting pegged. Play around with your butt a bit, maybe finger yourself of buy some toys. If you enjoy it then you could work up to pegging

21. It makes you, and only you, gay. It doesn’t make any other man who receives pegging gay. But you are an exception, and it specifically makes you gay, specifically because you are asking about it.

22. I am a female and I like to watch gay porn. I fantasize pegging some men I desire. I also want to use my fingers to give them prostate orgasms. Sometimes I wish I had a penis so that I can fuck men. Does your wife like gay porn??

23. I’d just like to comment: Would it be so dangerous if you happened to be gay (or really bi) in your bedroom?

    If you like it, go with it, no matter your sexual preference. You do NOT need to download Grindr and start hooking up with unknown men i dark parkinglots just because your into pegging.

    If you dont like it, you dont.

24. Fellas, is letting my wife touch my dick gay? It’s a erogenous zone that gay guys touch to turn each other on sometimes /j

    Silliness aside, there’s nothing gay about it. It’s just an action, and a way to explore an erogenous zone you may not have a lot of experience with. This is just a new way to have sex with your wife. There are plenty of gay men who hate receiving anal sex, and plenty of straight men who do. Just like any sexual activity, if you do it safely, responsibily, and have fun- there’s nothing wrong with it! And it has nothing to say about your sexuality. Women eat each other out all the time, but that doesn’t make the act of eating someone out a “lesbian act.” The vulva is an erogenous zone that some people like to explore, or make feel good. That’s all. Same thing for your ass.

    I wish you luck processing the stigma that may come alone with being pegged and assplay, though. I can’t imagine that will be easy. I’m queer and sex positive , so my straight male friends always had me to lean on when they had questions like this about sex. And they didn’t have to worry about being ashamed. And then I introduced them to each other, and now they have other straight guys they can talk it out with.

    So much of us have internalized shame and fear as part of our sexualities :,). You deserve to be free of that yo.

    Anyway, the only thing that is an indicator of your sexuality is whether you want to date or fuck other men. Not the activities that you do with women

25. If you’re not interested in it just make it clear to her. If you want to try it then feel free, knowing that unless you’re having sex with a man, and are attracted to men, you’re not gay. And even if you were it’s not like that’s the end of the world.