Q: Was my husband (40M) being rude or am I (38F) being too sensitive?
My husband and I were out riding out electronic bikes with our kids. I like to ride it without the assistance on. This makes the ride harder, especially going up hills since it is much heavier than a standard bicycle. We were riding up the hill and I slowed down to a crawl, the bike got unsteady and was about to fall over. The balance was off and I couldn't keep it up so I slowly lowered it to the ground, mind you, my 3yo was in the back but the bicycle did NOT fall. This couple run outside of their house as I am getting the bike back up and I tell them everything is okay, I just couldn't make it up the hill and started going too slow to maintain my balance.
My husband arrives and I tell him everything is alright. I go to leave and I am having trouble starting the bike. He looks at me and says something about "it being simple" – referring to me starting the automatic assist- and then he says, "don't embarrass us". Needless to say, I am very angry at him. I was already embarrassed enough and for him to care about some neighbors who live at least 20 houses down is beyond me but the mere fact that he even said that too me was immensely offensive.
I told him that was not okay to say and most people would only care that everyone was alright…not that my inability to start the NEW bike automatic assist (especially since I hardly use it) was an embarrassment.
He does not think what he said was offensive or rude. He said he told me that, because it is crazy that we have e-bikes and can't even make it up the hill.
I feel flabbergasted right now that he cannot understand his actions.