You find out one day that your partner is a few books deep into a series of erotic/romance books but has never openly expressed interest in such a topic before. How would you react?

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  2. “What?! OMG, ME TOO, WHY DIDN’T YOU TELL ME! What are you reading? Can I see?” lololol i’ve told my partner before i’ve own a few erotic books and used to read it a lot. Wouldn’t bother me one bit.

  3. I’d be thrilled he was actually reading. He loves the Harry Potter movies, but won’t read the books.

  4. As long as I’m not being asked to read them and these books aren’t deeply problematic in some way, I don’t see why I should care.

  5. I would think there is a lot of opportunity to be had 🙂
    I would ask which is their favourite and read it yourself.

  6. As a person who loves erotic/romance I would love this. It would give us something to talk about and bond over(of course if he is comfortable talking about the books).

  7. Ask them if there’s anything in the book they would like to try out in real life.

  8. That really depends on what specifically they’re reading. Ice Planet Barbarians would get very different reaction than the Bridgerton books for example. So long as it wasn’t misogynistic trash like 50 Shades or something, I’d be okay with it.

  9. ~~As someone who reads fanfics on AO3, I’d be just as guilty.~~

    In any case, I’d be interested in what books they enjoyed. I’ve pretty much only read cosmic horror, alternate history and sci-fi when it came to novels as of late, so maybe they would have some recommendations to get me to try out a new genre. I would also love to discuss what tropes they like/dislike in literature and what makes them enjoy a story over another.

  10. Ask them what the series is incase it is one I haven’t read them and offer suggestions for other series to read. I’m always telling my partner about the fun/ridiculous things in the erotic/romance books that I read though.

  12. I’d be ecstatic

    But the guy I have a date with tonight I specifically decided to talk to because he was reading one of my favorite romance novels. I immediately liked him just because of that.

  13. I’d just be confused why she didn’t tell me about it, we share all our guilty pleasures with each other already.

  14. I would think it sounds very cool! Odd that I didn’t notice before but maybe I’d get in on it too! Sounds interesting.

  15. I’d think it’s weird that he’s “secretly” reading them because if they’re that good I”m gonna want to read them.

  17. My partner is open with me about what they read, including when they read erotica and romance. Not sure why it would be an issue. I read those genres sometimes too.

  18. I don’t really care what someone reads. I have my books and sometimes decide to read different things. I would be annoyed if someone felt any type of way about what I was reading.

  19. Impressed that he’s reading books other than the fnaf books. Shove my romance manga in his face and make him read. Ask to read the book he’s reading after him cause now I’m curious. Ask why it was kept a secret lol

  20. “Cool. What ones are they because there’s this one series that I can’t find anyone to talk to about and…*insert long diatribe about various characters*”

  21. “Let’s trade books! Have you read this one yet?” Time to start a book club! 😋

  22. It seems like something ur partner just wanted for themselves. That’s okay, privacy and space is important in all relationships

  23. That’s fine, I’d mostly be excited I got to learn something else new about them.

  26. Omg it makes them wanna jump your bones fool..I’m the height of fifty shades men were like damn I never got laid so much..😝😝😝

  28. I would literally think nothing of it. I would never think to tell my husband what I read and wouldn’t think anything of him not telling me either. I am certain if I randomly told my husband I have read erotica or romance novels he would be as equally un-phased as the day I learned he watched porn. But I might ask him what book, to read it also for funsies!

  30. a little concerned that they felt like they had to keep it a secret, idm what they read

  31. Awwwwww. I’d wonder how he got the patience to read a book, cause ADHD makes him too impatient to read books.

  32. I would be so excited to swap favorite romance reads and talk about what we liked best. And I would be understanding that even women can find reading romance a “guilty pleasure” or something shameful so I wouldn’t judge that he didn’t think he could share with me

  33. It would explain some things 😉

    Also I’d tell him to get off his high horse about my “smut” lol.

  34. I don’t think I would mind. Maybe at first I would think it’s a bit odd because it’s not very common but I would get used to the idea.

  36. As a reader myself I would be very offended that he DIDN’T tell me about whatevs book he’s reading😞

  39. I’d be happy and ask if they wanted to try re-enact any of the scenes with me.

  40. I would ask why the fuck he isn’t applying whats happening in those books to our lives!

  44. I’d say “Okay, cool” and go on with my day. I’m not sure why they would need to be secretive about it. My husband and I both read a lot and I love that he reads. If I saw he deterred from his usual genre and consumed some romance, I wouldn’t care.

  45. Weird that she never mentioned it, but that’s fine by me. We literally read dinosaur erotic together out of curiosity, so it wouldn’t be a shock 😂

  46. Nothing wrong with that, you need to let your partner do things that make them happy. Would you prefer if they read brutal horror books?

  47. I would be surprised, as he normally only reads non-fiction & fantasy. But I read a lot, and often romance, so I’d love it and hope he was open to discussing the books with me!

  48. I mean…. they’re just reading a book. What difference does it make? I wouldn’t expect someone to inform me of every book they read, so it’s hardly a secret.

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