I (29F) separated from my ex husband 2 years ago. Since February this year I have been talking with a childhood friend (29M) at the beginning was just about banal stuff and the fact that we were elementary school friends, and our moms were coworkers and best friends. He initiated the flirting, and the romantic insinuations, I myself was out of the game completely, because I had an awful divorce, and a couple of bad experiences with men that asked sexual stuff from me, without ever showing than kind of interest in me before. Like dick pics out of the blue (this came from male friends that I thought I could trust). So I'm here feeling a stupid teenager, also because my ex husband was my only boyfriend, as I'm pretty shy/introverted. So I don't really know what to expect because we are also long distance. He is something like a community college teacher (trying to find equivalent for context) I know being a teacher is time consuming and tiring, on the other side I work from home and as soon as I log out, I don't take more work, but I can help but feel like I come across as clingy or annoying because I want to show him bits of my day here and there, but he almost never does unless I ask him directly. He wasn't so much like that, but as I grow more interested in him, I notice he is like this (idk if I just didn't care before) Yesterday he went to a trip with his roommates and went MIA all day, he answered my texts at 11pm, and didn't bother to tell me he was going on a trip until he arrived from it. I don't know anything about long distance, or relationships in general lol, but I feel all confused because he also says that he loves me, that he doesn't want to hurt me or be just another guy in my life, but I feel like he is just not that interested in me, because sometimes I feel like I'm chasing him, and I don't want to play the game of who takes more time to answer a text, or who looks more chill about being busy/not talking, I don't like that, and I don't know if he is playing games or is just the "enjoying the real life" kind of person. Should I just cut him off? (I know reddit tends to suggest cutting things off a lot) I already told him that I sometimes feel like he doesn't care, and he apologized but I felt the same all over yesterday.


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