My sister is mentally unstable and my mums her registered carer. She hasn’t been taking her out or making sure she’s eating three times a day. She cooks a meal but that’s about it. My sister is not getting better to the point where she’s not showering for weeks because she has been staying inside for two years in emergency accommodation.
Now I know my mums been saving up my sisters carers allowance and disability to go on holiday for a month and asking the woman who works at the emergency accommodation to check on my sister while she’s away. My sister is unaware of what my mums doing with her money. I’ve helped out every time I could when flying back to the UK. But the issue is, she won’t let us transfer her role to another carer. She says they won’t do a good job but that’s not the case. The place is filthy, food is rotting everywhere and there are insects all over.
My sister was sexually abused as a child by my brother, that’s why they live in emergency accommodation for two years waiting for a council flat because she can’t live in that house anymore with him there and rightly so. My mother goes back and forth between the house and emergency accommodation, ironing and cooking for the man child because he’s her only son. He’s 40 years old and unemployed, and she’s going on vacation with him to get him married to a poor woman where she’s told he has a good paying job and a house. That house is not even his and she’s using my sister’s money to do it.
I didn’t want to get into too much detail because I was mentally drained trying to figure all this out whilst also dealing with my mental health issues. My sister also needs to do another assessment and she can’t talk to anyone.
I am tired and angry at my mum. She’s got blinders on about going on vacation and can’t see reason that my sister needs more than being checked in on. Last time she was left alone for 3 days and became suicidal.
I’m at a loss and don’t know what to do.
Edit: thank you all for your helpful responses. I will go through each and make a plan on what to do next. I’ll keep you updated on what happens.