Every time i bring up something to my boyfriend, he immediately thinks im arguing. He becomes defensive like im just criticizing him and telling him he is a POS person. is there even a right way to say these things? My ex boyfriend would get defensive as well. Why does no one want to fix things in relationships? my ex broke up with me because i “nitpicked” when in reality i asked to be complimented more because words of affirmation and affection is probably my top love language.
If this happens to anyone else, how can it be fixed?
TL;DR We have talked about a long future together, but he wont talk about what needs help in the relationship. He ignores it and makes me feel crazy.