My husband has been with me for three years, because of financial problems for a while he has been depressed. But his depression has made him become so rude towards me and he expects me to tolerate it because he’s in a bad time. I am understanding and supportive and help him as much as I can but I’ve noticed that he’s made it an excuse to leave mess everywhere and expects me to clean up after him everyday, he also doesn’t bathe for like five days straight, he doesn’t brush his teeth throughout the day and expects me to give him intimacy and oral. So he would wake up and not clean himself only up to midnight or later to put deodorant on. I’ve told him his hygiene is off putting and I hate a messy house and poor hygiene it makes me so angry. Yet he insists it’s a wife’s duty to give intimacy and gets mad if I don’t . Even talks about divorcing me because I complain.. -__-
So I’m doing everything in the house and looking after our three month old, sometimes I don’t mind it all but I’d like a kiss on the forehead or a hug here and there like affection I can’t even get that because he doesn’t want to brush or bathe.
Depression is one thing but poor hygiene is it an excuse ?