I am a classical musician and play in an opera orchestra. I often play on television and these days was one of those times. It was aired on tv because of a kind of celebration of my country’s culture. Most people who cherish the culture watch it. I respect my boyfriend not being into the classical music because I know it is not something he knows much about or enjoys, he does know a lot about history and culture though. I went ahead to watch it today on TV and he came to me and said “I tried to watch it but it was so terrible I stopped 3 minutes in”. I asked how come he said the singers were singing horribly and the whole thing was ridiculous. From someone who is a professional, it wasn’t horrible nor was it ridiculous. The singers were amazing, particularly three of them out of five which have performed, and our culture was very nicely celebrated throughout the whole show, I even kept getting goosebumps while watching.
I immediately found it disrespecting, and I am wondering if it is valid to feel such way? I am very much into art and culture, and so were my grandparents and my father. I understand not watching or not being into something, but I don’t understand saying such thing when it is first of all not true, and second of all very insulting. We live together and have been together for two years so he knows how much these careers take work outside of the actually working hours, which are also paid very little in my country and not appreciated by vas majority of the population by the way. I felt his words on a personal level. I didn’t say anything but I am not sure if it is my fault to think this way or if I should say something next time?
TL;DR: Bf does not respect the job I do and isn’t afraid to voice it in a rather harsh way. Is it my fault if I feel it on a personal level? What should I do?