How many times a week do you hang out with friends and how old are you? Is it impromptu or planned? My mom was shocked to learn I hang out with friends 2-3 times a week. She was like no wonder you don’t have any time. I thought it was entirely normal but maybe it’s my age, I’m in my late 20s.
ETA: I don’t have kids, which is probably a huge factor.
ETA again: I think one of the most interesting things here is that a lot of people have a different definition of hang out or aren’t sure if what they are doing would apply. Personally, I think hanging out is any situation where you put in the effort to spend time with someone you consider a friend. If that is a sport, online gaming, socializing with other parents (that you actually like). I think the main thing is that you like them enough to be willing to spend time with them in various ways even if you currently are only seeing them at sporting events or kid play dates. I also don’t think that staying up all night and drinking is the only way to hang out, that is not what I meant at all. Personally, we will cook for each other, try new restaurants, hike, swim, ski, cycle, run, camp, go to the movies, play board games, play video games (in person or on discord), do silly classes to learn some new hobby…like I said I don’t have kids but I guess if I made other parent friends, I’d consider activities I do with them and my kids hanging out!
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Just turned 40. I only hang out with friends a couple times a month now. We do talk all the time in group chats, but hangouts are rarer and rarer due to distance, time, and kids. I’m glad we still talk daily though, and the hangouts are great.
I average probably twice a month. This is like specifically hanging out as families or whatever.
If you count sports leagues and rounds of golf, its much higher than that.
Not a big lot these days. Sadly life fed in the way
Once or twice a year or so.
At least once a week normally. Currently on hold though til I’m able to climb stairs again.
49 years old, once a week
At different ages the amount was different. When I was in college I hung out with friends daily during the school year in the evening and weekends. Not as often in the summer as we went to our respective homes. After college I got together socially with people once a week. When I had a baby I did not get together with friends much. My old friends didn’t live close or drifted off. It was hard to meet new people and get together with anyone. When my child was about 6-7 ish I started to find some friends again but saw people maybe once a month. As my kid grew up I saw people more but once a week seems like enough- sometimes less is fine.
Well I’m 22 and I live with them
Aside from my roommates, I hang with the boys probably 2-3 times a week
That’s totally normal at your age. Once you’re married with kids, or super busy with career, you won’t be able to any more. So enjoy them while you can!
I’m around 30, and I hang out with my two closest friends about once or twice a week. Either I’ll hang out with each friend one-on-one once a week or the three of us will go do something (either just us or as a group including other friends/acquaintances). It’s always planned when we hang out, might not be much notice, but it’s always at least a couple days in advance.
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30. I hang out with friends probably twice a week. I do not have any kids nor do any of my friends
Keep it up, older you will appreciate it.
Friends?
1-2. We have neighbors that are our age.
I also socialize with other neighbors daily.
Times a week? It’s more like times a month. And 1-3 times a month maybe.
I’m 39 and probably once every month or two on average? During the pandemic it was much worse.
I’ve never been that social (mostly because I had a baby in college, which really stunts your social life). I haven’t hung out with friends weekly since high school!
I play on an ice hockey team and a roller hockey team. Each plays once a week so i consider that “hanging out with friends”
Then we will try to get together with a family friend at their or our house at least twice a month.
Other than that unless you count spending every weekend with other families from my sons sports team “hanging out with friends”…
I am 50.
I play games with friends on the weekends. We all moved to different parts of the country after graduating.
That sounds normal to me! I am more introverted but my husband and middle child are extroverts so we need people around to help entertain them lol. We work full time and our youngest has special needs that require a bunch of different appointments, but, as much as I would like to sleep in on the weekend and hang out and read at home and browse around Target, the rest of my crew would go nuts.
Our best friends live 2 hours away- they are coming for an overnight visit (with their 4 kids) this weekend. Last weekend we had a BBQ with friends for memorial day. Last night my husband went out with a friend to watch basketball. During the school year, we may get together with friends a couple times month, but we have a pool, so in the summer we have friends over a lot more frequently. It helps that we have friends whose kids get along with our kids.
ETA- it is almost never impromptu. Our life is too complicated of a tangle. I recently stopped by to visit a friend who just had a baby, but that is the only impromptu “hang out” I have done in a long time.
Mid 60s M. We hang out a couple times a week. It’s a planned thing.
I see friends a few times a month
None. I’m a recovering alcoholic, and all my friends want to do is go out drinking, still even now in our 30s. Go to the beach and drink, go to an orchard and drink, bowling and drinks, everything involves drinks. It’s not that I can’t be around it, I just don’t enjoy watching people get wasted anymore. I hope to find new, like-minded friends in the future, and maybe my frequency of “hanging out” will change 🙂
Before I had kids I use to kick it with my friends 6-7 days a week honestly.
Now that I have a wife and kids I hang out with friends (in person) a handful of times a year at best lol.
I do play video games with my friends a few days a week though.
I work a two week on/off schedule. I usually meet up with friends once or twice a week when I’m not working.
We live a pretty secluded life. Middle of nowhere with no people around. So, never. I go weeks without seeing other humans besides my husband lol.
I work at a university, so during the summer at least once a week. During the school year, once or twice a month. I’m in my mid 30s.
A handful of times per year per friend. I wish it was much more often, but I’ve got my responsibilities and they have theirs and life just gets in the way.
Single and no kids, same my one friend. He’s been my neighbor for 20 years. We hang almost every other day/night, it seems. Every now and then we need space and take a break from each other tho lol edit: were both 30. He’s basically a family friend. Friends with my sister, climbs with my dad and even comes on my family vacation with us some years.
I’m almost 31. On average? 0. My husband, too. We see friends at our daughter’s birthday party and maybe another couple days a year.
It’s lonely and pathetic. My mom isn’t even a nice, caring person and yet talks to friends and sees people more than me.
What friends?
I’ve pretty much got 1 non-family friend outside of work and haven’t seen him in person in months since he lives several hours away and travels a lot for work.
Depends on what you mean by “hang out.”
How often do I see them in person? Never, we live all over the country.
How often do we talk on Discord or text? Usually daily.
During fishing season, 5-6 times a week, sometimes 2 times in a day.
In winter, 1 time a week if I’m lucky.
I’m 50.
In person? Like once every 2-3 months. Playing games on a discord call? 2-4 times a week.