So me '32M' and my wife '32 F' have different interests and struggle to find hobbies to connect on. Early on when we met I organised a board game group which she joined and there used to be an on going joke between members with some light hazing about how she would cheat at games (she literally couldn't stop herself). It was a little frustrating for me and I used to try and police her a little when playing board games but we wouldn't take it too seriously as it was just a games night for fun.
Fast forward four years and we are married and we can't play games together, we tried to play our first game of speed chess tonight and were enjoying the beginning where she was beating me, she ran out of time and after proclaiming she won until we googled the rules I said lets carry on with a new timer to finish the game. Any time she made a move that lost her a piece she would rewind it and make a different move. We finished the game and then I asked her why she feels the need to do this, it led to a semi heated conversation where I asked her why we couldn't just play the game normally and she said she doesn't enjoy it at all, I said it takes all the fun out of a game when I can't even make a move without it being reversed and basically can't ever enjoy a game. I get we are both super competitive but for me I love board games (any games really) but feel as though I can't share that with my wife. And for her she feels like I sap all the fun out of the games by playing my way. Is there anything we can do to enjoy board games or should we just leave the attempts to connect indoors to other types of less competitive activities?
TLDR: Me and My wife have very different takes on playing board games and can't find mutual enjoyment.