This could be when they had a fight with their family or dealing with traumatic childhood experiences or reliving them, or finding out horrible details about their parents/family.


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  1. I just let them know I’m here to listen. I don’t give too much input if they don’t ask. Sometimes a hug or a hand squeeze to let them know you’re there for them is enough too.

  2. It may be time to encourage low contact/ no contact until your partner feels ready to start pouring from their cup again. You can’t fill someone else’s cup when yours has holes. And trauma filled childhoods with abusive family requires a lot of filling. I would encourage you to introduce the idea of a break (in any capacity) to your partner. Maybe the thought never occurred to them. Distract them with something that they want to do. Ask for their help with something. Give them a task to do. This is the important part. Keep in mind that your partner has wounded inner child that won’t rest until her needs are met. I encourage you to discover those needs and meet them. Show them what love looks like. You’ve probably been doing exactly that this whole time and don’t know it. What this will do is build the healthiest relationship they have ever had. Bonus, they start to realize that they were never difficult to love and start demanding it from the people they allow in their life. Maybe they will make a change. Good luck!

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