I (22F) just found out I’m pregnant. My boyfriend (31M) and his family believe I should have an abortion, and logically it makes a lot of sense why. I’m a first year full time law student, my boyfriend lives in a different city 3 hours away from me and I am currently unemployed (I’m on a medical pension because I used to be in the military and receive 80% of my salary, but I’m not legally allowed to work on this pension).
I come from a deeply Christian family, and have a lot of conflicting morals when it comes to abortion. I’ve never had an issue with other people getting one, but I don’t think I’d be able to live with myself if I went through with it. I haven’t told my mum about my pregnancy yet but I know she would want me to keep this baby as well and she would help support me during this time.
My boyfriend is really pushing for this abortion, so much so that he offered to buy me some pills today to get rid of it. I told him I need some time to think about my options properly, and he said that if I keep it he isn’t sure if he would stay around.
Im feeling really confused and conflicted. I’m not ready for a baby, but I don’t think I could go through with an abortion. If I did keep this baby I’d continue studying law while pregnant and afterwards, the university has a lot of accomodations and options for mothers. My mum did two degrees while pregnant with my brother and I.
How do I talk to my mum about my pregnancy? And will she still love me if I keep it? I feel like my boyfriends family will be ashamed of me if I keep it. I just need some help processing it all and a hug too.