I (36f) am very inexperienced when it comes to giving oral. I feel so intimidated because it is THE most intimate act one can do, imo. I also suffered sexual trauma a while ago that I've worked thru in therapy, so sex in general has always been intimidating for me.
I know it's a learnable skill so I'm not doomed here. But the last few times I gave a bj to someone (3 different men I've dated for a couple months, over the course of the last year) they ghosted me after. I can't help but think that is the common denominator and that they can't deal with my inexperience or they can sense that I'm nervous and inexperienced, etc. and bail.
It's totally getting to me! How can I best navigate this?
What kind of communication can I initiate before getting there? Is it a total turn off if I mention that I'm inexperienced and ask them to guide me??
Thanks y'all… this is totally my biggest insecurity and it's clearly affecting my relationships.