I (28F) have been seeing this guy (29M) for a little over a month now. We met on Hinge and immediately hit it off. Conversation is great and we have been building a really strong emotional connection. We’ve been on 8 dates and it always ended in an intense make out session, until last night.
Last night we went out for dinner and drinks, ended up having a great time and talked in my car for an hour afterwards. We ended up making out and he invited me back to his place. I followed him back to his apartment and we immediately went to the bedroom. For some background, on our 5th date we had a deep conversation about what we like in the bedroom. Things that we do, things that we like, etc. During that conversation, he mentioned he was a “giver” and “could be down there for hours” so I was expecting just that… We also talked about how important foreplay is and how you can’t have sex without it.
We get in bed, start making out and he starts taking off my clothes. I end up going down on him in hopes that he’ll return the favor….but he did not. I had to ask him to touch me before we actually had sex. He eventually came, but didn’t make any attempt to make me orgasm. Didn’t ask afterwards if I did, which seems a bit selfish to me.
This was the first time we had sex so I’m trying to give him the benefit of the doubt, but now I feel like I have the ick…..
Is this something I approach about now? Or do I wait until it happens more frequently? Is it weird to say something? I fear this may have ruined our really strong emotional connection for me and I don’t know how to move past it….help