A 68 year old woman practically assaulted me at a networking event I hosted and then insisted, insisted I meet her for lunch by texting me a date, she then cancelled saying she HAS to ski, and when I said I was going to attend the ski event (I was invited by a mutual friend) that she HAS to ski in other words she would and could not compromise to have a drink with me and practically insisted I not attend. I skied 23 days! She told me when I saw her. I said OK. She made a face like I was supposed to say wow. I think she has autism/narcissism.
I noticed that the older women in our group often monologue for HOURS, show ZERO interest in our lives (my life) and out of politeness and maybe pity I let them monologue. She latched onto me at an event again and talked about herself incessantly, asking for help, a job, too. Whenever I tried to share my opinion or life, she interjected and insisted she was right and knew more, better, best. Finally, we played this personality game and she chose the kindness one (yellow) as her main trait and I kept joking I don't think she is a yellow. It was meant to say she is a mean, old selfish bitch:) Then she was saying "everything is the set up" like it was some axiom of wisdom. That was supposedly the blue personality type (planner) I said "that's blue! yes!" she said, mind you a 68 year old woman "I am leaving. She keeps being black and white and saying I am not a yellow and everything about me is yellow I am a teacher and coach" I was the bigger person and apologized to her sincerely. I am sorry I kept saying, I was joking. Then she stopped and started to talk AT me again and tell me my human design chart. Then she said "Well let's make a date" I said "I don't think that's a good idea" because I was tired of her narcissism, complete lack of manners (she spit on me while chewing and never offered me a thing when she got up to help herself twice and of course as I said MONOLOGUED relentlessly) she said "Well! I WANT TO NETWORK! I WANT TO MINGLE!" I was like "Go!" wtf, has she never read an etiquette book, she can politely excuse herself, I was not holding her hostage and wanted her to go. She finally walked away, I instantly talked to new people and enjoyed myself the rest of the evening. She also got mad when she kept asking my age (oldest rule in the etiquette book) and I said "I am not there yet" when she kept talking about being a midlife coach. She relentlessly took the stage and showed me clothing she wanted to buy, it was like being assaulted. I got home and saw she unfriended me on Facebook. What the fuck is wrong with this old lady? She monologues about her god daughter (she's known her 2 years) another woman her age did that too, I ask questions and there is NEVER reciprocity of curiosity.
My social skill issue is that I think these things and I know they are true. If I see her, I will tell her basically what I said here. I know we should respect our elders. Should I lie and say I think she's lovely?