We are together for 8 months. I dont want to go deep into explaining reasons for breaking up, rather I want to say whats making it difficult. I should mention that she is not well emotionaly and has some serious past trauma. We had a fight last weekend, which resulted in her breaking down and texting me how worthless she is and even told me she hurt herself. This really stuck with me, where I blamed myself for starting the fight and feeling guilty. After processing this I realized that I feel scared of saying anything wrong in the relationship and that I cannot be myself.
We had a talk and she agreed to go to therapy. However I still wanted a pause as I cant really process my feelings now and have a lot of work in exam period. Now I finally get to the difficulties that makes me question. (not sorted by importance)
– I am scared that if I break up, she will hurt herself more
– I want to help her as much as I can about the therapy but I am scared that she wont go through if I break up.
– We have a summer camp friend group where we are going on a preparation weekend in two weeks (where also her father will be) and going on the actual camp this summer that is 3 weeks long.
– I told her that I wont break up with her when she agreed on the pause.
– I dont know how to have this talk as this is my first relationship.
So is it better to do it now or later?