I’m 27F. So recently I’ve been feeling the wish to marry, I want to have children and the support of a loving husband. And I was wondering what could I change to my dating for this to happen. I have never dated seriously in my life and I only have had one formal boyfriend before.
Any advice or tips? Should I be telling the guys that I am looking for a husband on the first date or after a couple of dates? I usually date older men, about 6 years older than me, I believe they tend to look for something more stable than men my age or younger.
Anything you consider important could be helpful.
Thanks!
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Are you meeting these guys online, in person, or both?
Have patience and learn patterns. Definitely don’t rush that. You only had 1 bf, you gotta learn so much. I’m still learning.
I only used to date older men. From 14 to…fuck I guess 28 lol and I mean anywhere from 8 to 15 years older.
I believe a big problem was that I was brainwashed “older” meant more mature and ready.
My current partner is 6 months older than me and he is the most mature and “ready” for marriage or kids. The other men were children with commitment issues which is why they dated someone so much younger than them.
My advice, not as jaded as ny above comment lol, is to know what you want and don’t settle. But also don’t spring it on a first date. Take time to get to know them, but when they say I dont want kids end it. Don’t waste time thinking th come around. Just move on. I’d say not date one but surely date 3, you’re getting to know and asking hey do you see this in your life isn’t the same as HAVE BABY WITH ME NOW lololol
If you usually date older men, I would change that to men more your age and life status… if you go for a certain type everytime, mix that up too… sometimes people end up marrying not exactly what they thought or planned, but it works out well
I joined KoreanCupid.com because I felt Asian men are family oriented just depends on the culture. I found a husband after a month.
You’re getting way ahead of yourself. Focus on getting through the first date. Then focus on building a connection. Afterwards, get out of the honeymoon phase. Next, build a long-term commitment. Finally, get married.
There’s so many things that could go right or wrong that will not even let you get even close to a marriage milestone.
That’s why bringing up marriage on a first date is a red flag. You can say that you are looking for a commitment, but you usually don’t discuss marriage until you have been dating for a long while.
Focus on being someone worth dating and finding someone worth dating. Marriage shouldn’t be your goal, a good healthy relationship should be and a marriage will be a consequence of that.
When marriage is your goal then you can get stuck married to a horrible person as so many others have.
There are no shortcuts or tricks. Only advice I have for you is don’t fool yourself because you like someone. If they aren’t what you are looking for, move on, don’t try to rein them into what you want.