I (F19) started my first relationship 3 months ago with my second sexual partner and while I'm aware that he has been with several women before me I know he's also told me he doesn't actually like sex that much.
The thing is, he constantly contradicts himself and even though all his friends and even he calls himself a womanizer and recalls past hook ups as "the time I was obsessed with sex" now when we finish he just says he's bored, that I have nothing to do with it but he just doesn't really feel much.
The sex doesn't last, it's very sad and makes me feel insecure about my body and makes me wonder if maybe he misses those random hook ups that I know he would be having if he weren't in a relationship with me.
I had only had sex once when I started to have it with him, at first I didn't use to move so much because I didn't really know what to do, then I started to scratch, get on top sometimes, we tried different positions, I try to make a lot of noise as well so that he feels the engagement and I truly try to do everything I can but he just says he doesn't feel anything.
One thing I know is that he doesn't really like the way I give head, he has said I've gotten better but still I'm insecure about it and every time I do it I just get so much pressure.
Sex became pressure for me instead of pleasure and now neither of us are truly enjoying it, I actually really like having sex with him and I came a few times but knowing he doesn't like it really turns me off and makes me just sad.
One thing that doesn't let me get that much sleep is the fact that before me he really went trough a lot of girls and now maybe he just sees me naked and truly doesn't see anything new, I'm not special and having sex with me is just like having sex with any of those girls so he just got bored of just another body, and since he's just my second I like him more than he likes me.
Is it me or do I just need to communicate things more with him?
I've tried to talk about this 3 times already and it's been hard because I think he just doesn't really understand my feelings towards this. He is convinced I have nothing to do with it and that he just doesn't like sex that much, but if that's true how is it that he had so much sex before and now he doesn't want it?