I’m M31 and my wife F29, we met on an online dating app called hinge, we’ve been together for nearly 3 years now and I can’t help but to think of how rough our marriage happened.
My wife is Taiwanese, she is an amazing person and at the time we first met she was on a visa where she had only 4 months to stay in the us. We spent lots of time together during that time and I wasn’t thinking too much or worried because she said she was trying hard to obtain a green card through her school which she was attending at the time.
Fast forward she asked me if I’d be able to marry her so she can stay, at first I said a big NO and then as time went on and it got closer to her visa expiring, the pressure grew bigger and bigger. At the end I gave into it and said yes, the first time we went to get married I walked out on her and I cried because the pressure was too much and I didn’t want to do it. Then we went home and she started crying so hard and ganging like she was about to vomit and I felt guilty, next day we got married. Despite the good times we had I can’t help but to feel resentment, I feel like I’m not with the right person even though she shows me so much love, we have so much differences and the vibe is not there on my end but she claims that we vibe so much. Sometimes when we get together I feel moody and stuck, I treat her a little cold and I don’t want to do that to her I feel horrible when I’m not showing love back to her. With the time spent my love grew for her but We have very different beliefs, what do I do in this relationship?