Closure

I understand my ex wants closure but the reason why I don’t give it to him is because we never even had a title we was honestly fwb but I knew he was catching feelings since I was chillen with him and my kids. Everything was good till I realized I was the dominant person and I’m okay with that to certain extent, he would jokingly say shit about getting his ass eating and become a fr stripper or shit like I should work and he would be the stay at home parent since I made more money. Which I kind brushed off and whatever. His vibes were always weird and even though I guess he loved me, he never held my hand or actually went out with me beside to the grocery store. Mind you we spent a year like this most of the time I’d come over and sit on the couch and just observed his behavior and as well as he would never engage in sex. But since we weren’t a title then I didn’t feel right asking him for that. And also would try to have another girl over while I was there. So clearly we were just friends. So what clearly just did it for me was I went to go wash my hand in his bathroom and I found a big black dildo ….!!! I looked at it dead in the eye and walked out….. so then I was like yeah no, and my kid was like I don’t feel good vibes from him and I agreed. Now fast forward to today he on my line asking for answers cuz he so love me so much but I’m convinced he was in love with idea of me but I do know that after finding that, my role in that relationship would be really strange. What do you guys think ? I don’t judge nobody but after a yr he could have just been honest. Same a I but how do I bring up a fat dildo like I don’t even have one….