Hi guys. I was in a relationship with my now ex boyfriend for a month. We recently broke up a week ago and I have the details about our breakup. Basically 2 weeks ago everything was fine. On a Tuesday he said he really was happy that he gets to be my boyfriend and he would always say stuff about how he wants to make me happy and everything and that he had never met anyone like me before (which I know comes across as love bombing in nature but we both feel it.). On Thursday we were with each other, everything felt good and nice and he asked if I could stay the night but I couldn’t. The next day his texting communication drops by a lot and he seems dry. I ask if everything is okay and he said his parents dropped a “bomb” on him. Still he’s texting me a lot less and I ask him if he wants me to hold back on the texting (I double and triple text and he knows this, he said he doesn’t care for it at all but I don’t know if his mind changed about it). He explained that his parents want him to move sooner (like 1000+ miles away) and that he was preparing to move within the next 2-4 weeks basically and that he’s stressed about medical school as he still hadnt gotten into a school. Reassured me it was nothing I did. We start texting less, nearly going 24 hours without a response and I know he said he was going to be busy with packing and everything so I didn’t bother him too much. I texted him how I normally would and waited for a response. I facetimed him once or twice and didn’t know if he still felt the same way for me and I said “I like talking to you” and “I miss you” and he said it back. I asked how long distance would work for us now that he’s coming up sooner and he just seemed disconnected. I asked if he still wanted to talk at one point (because he was very occupied) and he said yes and he’d make sure he would text me when he had a chance. (We were both away on the weekend). Texted how I normally would but I realized it was 2-3 days without texting and I started to get worried. At this point it seems like he checked out if our relationship so I sent a couple of texts saying I felt disconnected and distant was not sure if he felt the same way back anymore for me. He then responded saying he didn’t think he lost feelings for me, but that he wasn’t getting closer and said I was a great person and wants to break up and reevaluate in the future. I asked what changed and he said “I just feel like there’s a lot going on my life right now that I still need to figure out.” The next day he told me on FaceTime that he still liked me and our time together and wants a relationship and feels ready but isn’t sure he can do one right now. He said he hopes he can and that he needs a week or two to think and he’s FaceTime me. I hate waiting for people but we both kinda said on FaceTime it’s hard finding people like each other. I trust him and he’s very honest with me. I think he’s stressed with external circumstances, but him saying he didn’t feel any closer and that he hit a wall makes me feel like he can’t develop more feelings for me. I always supported him and told him he could open to me but he said he wasn’t good at saying his feelings. I have slight anxious attachment, nothing toxic so when communication was going down I asked for reassurance and couple of times..
I feel terrible about myself that I wasn’t worth it enough to him for him to actually try and make things work. Even when all of this was happening i asked if we could see each other and he responded with “I’ll try to see you once before we both go.” Not super reassuring. It’s just insane to me how fast the switch up happened. And it’s also the fact that he’s sidelining me right now and wants 2-3 weeks to think about whether he can commit