Me & my husband have been together for a decade. We have a child that is 1.5years old. Babies take over your life, now we know and experience this. That being said, our sex life is somewhat on a stand still. We both understand and accept it for what it is.
My partner has expressed to me that he wants me to touch him specifically in his groin area to show/ remind him that I want him. I understand his reasoning. I find that I am not naturally inclined to do this. It just slips my mind and if I’m not reminded, I don’t find myself touching him like that.
I still want him and am very attracted to him. I feel that when I touch him like that, there is an expectation to engage in the act. Most of the time, we are around my toddler and I do not feel in the mood when my child is around. I am still BF and I know that this impacts my hormones and probably explains one reason why I don’t feel like reaching out to him in that way.
I touch him in other ways, just not in his nether regions casually. We still engage in the act, just not as often as usual as we’d like.
I feel disappointed in myself that I am not showing him physical affection (specifically in the way he wants) and upset because I don’t know how to push myself to touch him daily. I’ve tried to keep up with it and last about a week and then life happens and it slips my mind. I’ve never been one to show love in the physical way. I’m affectionate but not sexual just because.
Is there any way that you’ve kept it top of your mind or even just reminded yourself that your partner wants physical touch and you need to show them you love them enough to atleast try, even if that’s not your love language.