sometimes when i masturbate i get a buildup sensation that i cant really hold back and then it releases into like a throbbing in my vulva and i get a painful cramp right above my pelvis for some reason which lasts about a minute and sometimes it makes me really tired
it doesnt feel that intense like how people describe it and i dont shake or anything like that. ive had a few partners and ive never noticed a feeling like that during sex but one of my exes once told me he can tell when i orgasm because id tighten around him
i dont know why ive never felt an intense orgasm like ive heard so many people describe and it makes me feel like im missing out on something and i dont know how to achieve it