TLDR: My friend's husband rubbed my back, neck and put his hand into my hair, and it didn't feel right. It made me uncomfortable, but maybe I am overreacting and he was just being friendly. What's your take? Where is the line between what is friendly and what is more than friendly?
Here's the story: My husband and I went to dinner at my friend's home for the first time. I know her pretty well but I've only spoken to her husband, who I'll call "Rob", a handful of times. I will call my friend (his wife) "Kate".
During the evening Rob asked one or two intrusive questions, and brought up sex a few times, which Kate mostly shut down, but still it was a bit off-putting. Toward the end of the evening, Rob took a seat next to me and after a few minutes he took his hand and rubbed my back, which surprised me – I barely know this guy – but this wasn't a huge deal on it's own. Then he moved his hand to my neck and squeezed like a neck rub 3 or 4 times, and then moved his hand into my hair, at the back of my head and massaged for a few seconds. No one saw this.
I froze, not knowing what to think or how to react. Even though I didn't do or say anything, I was really uncomfortable. It was really late anyway so I started to pack up and start the goodbye's and then we left.
Is Rob pushing boundaries to see what he can get away with? Or is Rob just being friendly? Is an unsolicited back/neck rub inappropriate when you barely know the person?