Mini rant and question. I feel that I always get excluded from people's social media posts. Let me give an example.
This colleague of mine frequently posted about her office life on Instagram. We were okay friends – talked often, bitched about seniors, ate lunch, took walks – the general stuff she would do with other colleagues as well. But I noticed I was never there in any of her posts. I was okay with it because I'm not active on Insta anyway. Today I was scrolling through her LinkedIn, and I saw that she has similar posts there too, again any without me, and LinkedIn is a platform I'm fairly active on. She has literally put photos of colleagues who joined office a month before she left! I knew her for 1.5 years! Man this hurt.
What am I doing wrong? Is it that I'm ugly or something? Is my judgement of people being my friends wrong? Thing is, this isn't the first time I'm feeling this with people around me.
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Yeah… she’s not that into you… Seriously and that’s not necessarily a bad thing. There are people you just don’t genuinely vibe with and vice versa. Or people you might be cordial with, though not that involved with. It’s not really about how long you’ve known someone and it’s more about how well you know someone. Both factors need to be in the green more or less for you to feel buddies with someone. Try not to take it to heart and just find yourself people who feel the same kinda way you feel about them.
Heck I even just made this https://www.reddit.com/r/socialskills/s/T8c99brfOE post to help demonstrate stuff like this. Not everyone you hang around or with are that into you. Some might even be holding you back and I’ve also heard… while I’m not saying this is in every case, coworkers are not… your friends. I’d generally really say just do your job and be on your way. If you wanna make friends, or socialize it’s generally better to do it outside of your work circle.
I don’t class anyone I work with as friends, it’s dog eat dog in the working environment, with most people trying to climb the ladder. There’s a chance she may see you as competition, and nobody would advertise their competition. I would advise you not to bitch about anyone around that person.
Since that is what it take for you to rant, maybe because you can make a big deal out of small things and she just doesnt want that to happen?
Maybe cause you peepin on her posts…
For me, it’s good to remind myself from time to time that social media is brain rot.
You sound very stalker ish, don’t do that.