IM under 15 years of age (not going to say my real age) and im in junior high. and i see people who seem to have really good friends. Some of them seem to have really close friends. And i havent found those kind of friends. I know i want to start fresh next school year since its summer break, and i want to be more social next year. Does anyone have any tips or advise to make good friends?
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at your age, the easiest way is things in common (actually works when you’re my age too)
If you have things you like (baseball, chess, etc) see if there are clubs you can join.. look about summer camps near you.. the world is your oyster and it is wide open to you…
Good Luck!!
Genuinely connect with people in real life e.g. ask how they are, their hobbies, interests goals, opinions, etc. Listen and pay attention to what they say. Share those things about yourself when asked. People also subconsciously attach you to the value you bring. The value you bring is a clear, unique, and convincing reason why people will interact with you, let alone do so constantly. So Find ways to add value to their lives. Having In person interactions is the easiest way to stand out from countless people who text or message. People remember and favor in person interactions because of the positive vibes. If your hobbies, skills, talents align with their interests or can help them, bring it up and offer to help them. Finally, learn how to be genuinely busy in your life pursuing your goals and hobbies, while interacting with people on the side. People are hardwired to be repulsed by neediness and desperation and instead gravitate towards those who are self confident and well rounded in life. They want to see active confirmation of you actually doing something in your life other than just talking to them. So chase excellence, not people.