TLDR; I feel like my bf is emotionally not there for me. Should i just start backing off and distancing myself?
This is my first relationship. We’ve been together for about 6mo. We just graduated from college, so we have the added stress of finding a job to start our careers. I feel like every time we are together, he is doing something else. whether that be on his phone on reddit (lol), on instagram, looking at jobs, etc. So sometimes I feel alone even when he’s right next to me.
Even when we are talking about random things or deep conversations, sometimes he just pivots to job talk. I want to talk about other stuff, but it’s always about jobs and interviews and moving away for his career. it’s disheartening. I want to have meaningful conversations but i can’t because he’s always doing something else and im not the center of his attention.
I just had a call with him that quickly drained my energy because i noticed he was kind of talking to me, but he was either on reddit and talking to me or completely silent while looking for jobs. and then when he laid down, right back to media surfing again. sometimes id talk randomly and he wouldn’t even reply. it made me realize the sheer difference in how we talk to each other; he is on other apps and doing stuff while i am staring just at him, facetime on full screen.
so i don’t know if i should just back off and not engage as much. i like his company and i give him 100% of my attention but it seems that he is not. and it makes me feel so clingy and desperate and i want to feel loved and appreciated. the bare minimum. so i don’t know if i should just emotionally distance myself.