The past week my boyfriend has been working in a dangerous area for his job. So dangerous that he carries his gun (it’s legal in our state). He’s been texting me everyday when he gets home but yesterday I didn’t get one. He ended up leaving me on read around 3:30pm. I thought he was still working but when it was almost 8pm I asked his he was alright. Moments after I texted him I opened Instagram to see a story from his friend (who is female) who doesn’t like me, posting being with him and getting ready for her grad party (I don’t care that they hang out) but he started lying to me about what he was doing/ hanging out with her and speaking to me in a strange way (the way he’s texting is not normal for him). I’m going to put the texts here so you guys can see. How do I break up with him? (I took out the name of the dangerous town and where I work)
Me @ 7:52 pm —> you good?
Him @ 8:09 pm —> Ye. I smoked a turtle trying to fix my car
Me @ 8:15 pm —> ohhh
Me @ 8:15 pm —> so that’s why you left me on read for over 4 hours…
Me @ 8:15 pm —> is your car ok?
Him @ 8:23 pm —> I’m sorry but I was preoccupied with multiple things
Him @ 8:23 pm —> Yes the cars fine now I put it all back together
Me @ 8:43pm —> i get that you’ve been preoccupied and I know you had a long day at work today and I didn’t want to bother you while you were busy, but i was waiting for the “I made it out of Dangerous Town” text that I’ve been getting all week. It honestly really worries me when you have to work there (even tho I know I make jokes about it all the time)
Me @ 8:43pm —> Leaving me on read was really frustrating, especially knowing you were in Dangerous Town again today. I was waiting for the “I survived Dangerous Town once again and the tweaker count for the day” text but it never came.
Him @ 8:56pm —> Like I said I got preoccupied with multiple things as soon as I got home and I forgot to respond
Me @ 9:29 pm —> im sorry i was just worried about you and your safety in Dangerous Town. Like i said you’ve gotten me into a pattern of letting me know you made it out safe from there. It hurts to hear that im so easily forgettable.
Me @ 9:29 pm —> Even when i was working over 14 hour days this week your safety was number one on my mind and keeping our communication up even when i was busy selling my soul to job 1 and job 2. If you had told your mom that you were in Dangerous Town im sure she would have been just as worried as I was if she hadn’t heard from you in multiple hours. You’re really important to me and this hurts.
Him @ 11:18 am (next day) —> Like I said I was occupied with other things the second I got home like fixing my house and my car you weren’t forgotten or abandoned
Me @ 11:30 am —> This also hurts my feelings, you’re ignoring the fact the you literally told me you forgot about me and your not acknowledging my feelings that im tell you. On top of that just not responding I was trying to have a serious conversation and talk about how I feeling and told you I was hurt and you just ignored it till this morning. All I was looking for was for you to communicate and be like “hey im home” and since you were preoccupied you could have thrown in a “im gonna be busy after work tonight” like you’ve been doing all week and I wouldn’t be upset because then you would have at least talked to me but you didn’t.
Me @ 11:30 am —> This is just showing me how little you actually care about our relationship. And if you don’t care and I’m the only one who loves the other here, then what are we doing? Were you planning on just being MIA all night? I can’t do the loving and caring for both of us and I won’t be put on the back burner and just be forgotten about because that’s not what you do when you’re in a relationship. You say we’re a partnership but I feel like im the only one wanting to be partners.
Him @ 11:41 am —> First of all I didn’t ignore you I fell asleep and didn’t wake up till 10:30
Second I was literally finishing up the car when you texted me and was going to check my phone to see what was going on. Sorry it’s not always in my hand scrolling through social media
Once again you were not forgotten I was busy
It’s not like I was unreachable it was in my pocket you could’ve called or texted anytime and I would’ve gave the same response
If me being supposedly MIA for 4 hours leads you to believe I’m going on an all night bender I really don’t know what to say to that
Me @ 12:09 pm —> There is no need for you to come into this being nasty I was just trying to tell you my feelings. And I don’t know what’s up with this social media comment? Are you trying to say that I don’t have two jobs and just sit all day on my phone? Because we both know that’s not true. Your back tracking to say I wasn’t forgotten but just a couple of text bubbles above this you said “and I forgot to respond” which is explicitly saying you forgot about me. All I was looking for last night was a simple “hey im home” like you’ve been doing the rest of the week even when you had to go home for the AC guy and your financial meeting on Thursday I still got the “i survived Dangerous Town” message.
Me @ 12:09 pm —> I know you weren’t unreachable but you had already not responded to one of my messages and I didn’t want to keep messaging you til I got a response and bother you but I was concerned when it was almost 8pm and I hadn’t heard from you. When you come over I don’t go to sleep when you leave till I see some sort of notification from you to ensure you were ok on your way home. why would yesterday be any different? You were in Dangerous Town and I was accustomed to hearing from you when you were out of there. I would never assume you to be on a bender im honestly not sure where you’re getting that from.
Him @ 1:42 pm —> I’m not being shitty I’m just stating the facts. I’m helping set up a party we’ll talk about this later
Me @ 2:04 pm —> I never said you were being shitty and you haven’t given any “facts”. Honestly im not sure there’s much to talk about and I think your stance is pretty clear at this point. I have no clue when later is but I guess just let me know when it’s convenient for you. I hope you enjoy your party. (Left on read @2:14pm)