Hello everyone, sorry this is long… so thanks if you make it to the end. I need advice because at this point I don’t know what to do next.
tl:dr, my Venezuelan boyfriend says his behavior is perfectly normal where he comes from. I disagree but is this a real thing? How upset should I be?
I am a 36f in a relationship with a 38m. I grew up in the US and only understand Hispanic culture through my family background.
He grew up and lived in Venezuela well into his late 20s. And he’s been here in US about 8 years. He was a longtime bachelor who liked party but for real was looking for right person to start a life with.
Here we go…he has lots of women friends including women who are exes. And he calls them “baby””amor””te amo”.
Now…most of this was not said in “flirty way” at least not during our relationship or that I know or. But I find it so in appropriate. In my eyes, those are intimate things you call or say to your partner. On top of that..he only behaves like that with certain friends. He has these specific flirty relationships.
He thinks there’s nothing wrong with it. He says that in his culture that’s the way men and women treat each other and that it’s totally innocent.
I guess’s ultimately my question is…how upset should this make me? How likely is the behavior to change if I ask and would that even be fair. 😞