Am I wrong for not having female friends?
I feel like I am wasting my time having platonic female friends because I would have sex with most of my female friends if I could
But the main reason I have no female friends is becoming dissillusioned with my crush who friendzoned me and went for another guy
From this point on I felt hurt and didn’t want to expose myself to a girl like that anymore and closely guarded my time and attention but now I find it so boring and depressing having no female friends?
Where am I going wrong?
The manosphere says that I shouldn’t waste my time on women or chase women but I really miss having female friends?
TL/DR: I have no female friends because of getting hurt by my crush in the past and feeling like I was only being used for attention, however I find it boring and depressing having no platonic relationships with women?
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Wanting to fuck female friends is not a good trait or conducive to keep female friends. Forget the manosphere and look into what you’re saying.
I’m not trying to be mean…but come on bruh. WTF is this?
You want friends, but you also want to fuck them… when they dont have romantic interest in you cause *you’re friends*, you’re mad… but you say you want female friends.
Dude no one can give you any proper advice here. You’re just absolutely confused
So, you don’t have female friends, because you don’t want to be friends with women, and now you’re upset because you don’t have female friends?
If you want platonic relationships with women you have to behave platonically. As in not give the kind of attention potential (or current) boyfriends give. That way you can’t be “used”.
It’s not a zone. If someone doesn’t want to date you and offers to remain friends, you either want to or you don’t.
And if you like someone, act like it and ask them out. Don’t pretend to be a friend when that’s not your goal.
I found out just be yourself when meeting woman works. Don’t try to over do it.
You have no female friends because you look at women as sex objects, not human beings.
Talk to them as people who are worthwhile and interesting, not people you want to fuck.
No your not wrong in having no female friends, also being friendzoned (hate this word) yes sucks for men and woman but again if you want more and they don’t but like with your experience keep you on the “potential” maybe we can be more than friends but not right now are not worth the emotional damage.
Likewise a true friend would only want happiness for said friend if one person is wanting more but has been rejected and chooses to remain and accept great and no boundaries are being pushed/tested everyone wins but it’s not nice to be manipulative in hopes to gain/give more.
It’s difficult with m/f friendships not to be questioned or put under a not so nice pressure oh something sexual must have happened or yeah she/hes not …
So don’t need to worry about …
So yeah if you are still worried about potentially wanting more than pure friendship with women and the same experience happening again just keep interactions superficial or if you find that you are close to a certain female and are worried that your feelings are developing more it’s ok to distance and be honest and say your struggling. Don’t let what happen stop you making potential brilliant friends with woman everyone is more than just the gender and lust. Trust yourself not to be played and trust and respect others not to do them what had been done to you.
If you want to be genuine friends with a girl, then go out and make new friends. However, if every co-ed friendship translates to you just wanting to hook up, leave the poor girls alone.
You’re not looking for friendships, really are you?