Am I (28F) wrong that I don’t want to hang with my boyfriend’s(28M) best friend(27)?
My reasoning: he calls her for every argument we have. It’s not like we have a lot, but I’ve noticed he’s always talking to her immediately afterwards. He said sometimes he vents, or he will ask if he’s in the wrong.
I personally don’t even like that, imo I think arguments should stay between a couple. I let him know this but I also said I didn’t want to make it seem like he can’t have friends so i said I understand at the same time.
But knowing he calls her every time really bothers me so much. He’s also constantly asking me to hangout with her but I’m so uncomfortable with the idea due to her knowing everything. It’s just weird for me, and it’s like they’ve violated my privacy without knowing.
Is this something people even do? I personally don’t call my best friend after every argument, but when he asks how our relationship has been I don’t lie. I give him a simple “yea we fought about xyz but we resolved it.” I don’t give him details like my boyfriend does.
It’s gotten to the point where I dislike her but we’ve only met twice. I didn’t at the beginning, but her knowing all our arguments has made me feel like this.
How should I go about this with healthy expectations? I don’t want to cut him off his best friend, I just don’t like the habit he’s formed.
We’ve been together 6/7 months now.