UPDATE: all of you are great at giving advice and I now am feeling a lot better about waiting out the 2 years. The relationship is healthy and the connection and love is strong enough to accept the fact he wants to wait an additional 2 years. I appreciate all your feedback so much, thank you!!
Hi! My boyfriend 23 M and me 23 F have been dating for 3 years now. I occasionally bring up the idea of engagement frequently because it excites me and I really want to get engaged because I love him so much. Anyways, I asked him again today and he’s annoyed when I bring it up because it happens so often. Well, it went down hill today and we argued about it and I asked when! And he said he won’t propose to me until at least 2 more years around spring or 2026. We just got an apartment this may of 2024 and have been living together and the lease ends may 2026. I talked to him previously and I imagined our timeline of getting engaged was the year mark of our two year lease. Today, he said that isn’t ideal because he feels we are still too young and that he isn’t ready. I feel really upset and am at a loss of this because I really want to take the next step of our relationship and get engaged within a year. I feel he doesn’t quite understand this loss I’m feeling. Our relationship is healthy and it has been a steady 3 years through college and post college. I’ve been really upset and crying knowing that he wants to wait an additional 2 years on top of our healthy 3 year relationship. What is your feedback on this and what’s some advice moving forward?