At what point did my dad go too far?
Hello! I am 28 years old and I’ve been estranged from my dad since March 2019.
Growing up he has always tried to help me but I feel that he went too far and made me resent him. For all of you out there, especially dad’s, what would you have done differently?
1: in high school I ran for class office. My dad showed up unexpectedly one day to “talk” to my opponent. This led to him having a big argument with the school principal because my opponent felt intimidated by him
2: my dad really wanted me to go to an elite university so he threw away my college application and forced me to use the personal statement he wrote for me. He told me to memorize it.
3: I struggled in college (no surprise given #2 above). I lived at home and my dad’s solution was to have me write down everything I did minute by minute. This way he could review how many pages I studied and when I went to the bathroom. He also locked me out of Facebook and regularly checked my internet history.
4: I was working in a restaurant and my dad would sometimes visit and jokingly ask my boss when I’d be getting a raise. I felt embarrassed by this.
Looking forward to hearing your responses!