Me (19F) have been in a relationship of 3 weeks to this guy (20M), we know each other 2 months ago. He is a sweet guy and “date to marry” as I do. Before going in a relationship I talked about intimacy and how important it is to me, I said I wasn’t thinking about having sex before 3 months of dating and he agreed on it.
A week after we started dating there were deep touches, they weren’t bad but i didn’t wanted to happen that fast, I let him know about it, and he said it wasn’t that fast for him cause he is used to intimate before getting in a relationship. He also showed up his thoughts about me wanting to intimate but at the same time not wanting to disappoint my own moral, which is true.
Now we are having a problem cause whenever we meet at his house he wants to intimate and he gets kinda angry/ disappointed if I don’t agree. He calls me lame or mean when I don’t give in, which I dislike. As I joke I says he still have 2 months and x days lefts before we have s3x, and he took it seriously saying if I’m really holding into the three months wait time that’s not gonna happen and I should stop talking to him if that’s how I think. He says he is grown man and he desires his partner and he won’t waste 3 months of his recently 20s.
I'm confused and cannot avoid thinking about it all the time, I could give in but I feel he is pushing on intimate a lot, till the point I feel scared/uncomfortable just barely by touching him cause he will immediately desire to intimate and don’t get me wrong I do wanna have s3x with him but not when he is treating me like that’s all he wants. I’m looking for more than a sexual partner but he says we gotta intimate before he finally starts taking me seriously. I don’t wanna feel bad to myself after give in on it.
Is it actually bad waiting 3 months or till I’m ready to intimate?
What’s the longest time that you have wait to have s3x?