I’ve (27F) has been trying to be better about communicating needs or figuring out where my partner (26M) is coming from when he says certain things.
A few months ago we agreed to try to keep the convo normal (no raising voices, bulldozing, etc) and I’ve been good about keeping my cool but now every time I bring something up in rebuttal or to try to clarify where he’s coming from he explodes on me, screams, name calls, and then starts bringing up a bunch of things that have happened in the past which he suddenly has a problem with? I’ve tried everything and I’m not sure what to do but I’m tired of trying to sift through everything to get back to my original point while also enduring all of this.
What should I do?