I doordash and i noticed when i say “have a good one”..no one says it back to me..but i see when my husband do it..he always gets one back. My husband is a lot more enthusiastic than me though..but even if i’m saying it in a monotone voice or whatever..it still hurts to not receive one back..

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  3. Last sentence sounds like you know what you might need to start doing if you don’t want to get hurt

  4. Do you turn away before you’re done saying this to someone? That’s kind of a closed door to many people, that the interaction is over.

  6. Eye contact is really important, try holding eye contact next time and smiling just before turning away. You’ll probably notice a higher response rate.

  7. Possible you just have a quiet voice and they don’t hear you? I run into that a lot. I have to repeat things a lot.

  8. Change it up then, say “Later dawg”. Regardless of age or gender. Everyone will always reply:)

  9. As someone who goes out of their way to wish everyone a good day or to have a good one.. you too!

  10. I have experience in food/customer service.

    Some people simply don’t care and sometimes they don’t know what “have a good one” means. “Have a good day/afternoon/evening” has worked more in my experience. They are usually more inclined to respond if you strike a brief conversation with them as well. As other people have mentioned, eye contact definitely helps.

  11. I always tell my dasher (or other delivery people) thanks and have a good day and be safe. Depending on where you are, it may differ. Some folks can be classist or simply rude. Best not to dwell on it.

  13. Some people believe customer service formulaic pleasantries don’t deserve an answer. I’m not one of them because service workers are people too.

    OTOH: When I say “thank you”, I don’t expect or demand a “you’re welcome.”

    The other thing is city people are getting ruder. There are neighbors in my building who refuse to say “hello”, hold the door for anyone behind them who is clearly a resident, or even communicate what’s essential. They’re arrogant asshats.

  14. Look them in the eye, smile, and say it with your chest in a friendly tone.

  17. I’ve stopped automatically saying “you too” after saying reflexively for decades when I got tired of cringing after all the “you too”s after a waitress’ “enjoy your meal” or an airport worker’s “enjoy your flight”.

  18. Where do you live at? In the Midwest where I am you too is basically autopilot for me. I hate it sometimes though because I always expect a “have a good one” and then they say “enjoy your food” and I say you too on autopilot lol.

  19. Perhaps your voice is like mine. I don’t get responses as often as my husband. My voice blends with other noises. We have done some experiments and even if I yell in some situations I’m still not audible. So people might just not hear you.

  20. Could just be a service industry thing, I work at a hotel and only get responses to about half the people I welcome as they pass through the lobby. Unfortunately people can see you as a wage slave when they’re paying for your service and don’t feel inclined to be polite.

  23. People mirror other people without realizing it so if you give passive vibes you’ll get passiveness in return. You could practice smiling – and I don’t mean to be rude, I’m just saying what worked for me. I am on the spectrum and used to have crippling social anxiety, and I had a hard time smiling at people. For some reason I thought I would look weird, and in doing so, ended up looking weird. Once I got the hang of it and feeling comfortable smiling to myself in public, I was treated a lot differently. I became more approachable. Sometimes your headspace just isn’t there. You might be exhausted and smiling just isn’t a thing you can do. Don’t force it, but once you start smiling it usually sticks. And it makes you feel good on the inside too.

  25. Face them, wave up ur hand and say it with a smile. Have a good one! 👋😊

  27. This a really interesting social interaction that I’m I’m fascinated by now. I’m going to start dishing out ‘have a good one’ to everyone and observe their response.

  28. sometimes i say it too quiet and the person doesn’t hear me. or the timing is just awkward. and sometimes when ppl say it to me i overthink it and feel awkward and don’t say anything back then i feel stupid after

  29. This is a hundred percent people thinking you don’t care. Look people in the eyes and mean it if you say it or don’t say it at all. You’ll feel better about it too.

  30. Be genuine. Not that you aren’t when you say “have a good one” to people, but I say this because maybe your nerves, or your worry of whether they will respond, overrides your genuineness in the exchange. Make wishing them a good day the main goal, and worry less about the outcome.

    I’ve dealt with a similar situation when I have long one on one conversation with people. I have social anxiety at times, and having face to face conversations are sometimes difficult. Sometimes, while the other person is talking, instead of listening, my mind will be racing, thinking about things like, “how can I make it look like I’m listening better” or “what can I do to make this conversation keep going”. I will also become self-conscious about how I look, or if they think I’m boring, stupid, or uninteresting.

    I learned that when I genuinely listen to the person talking to me and turn off all the other nonsense going on in my mind, I have great interactions with people. I’ve also noticed that interactions where I’m in my head and not listening to the other person have not only made me look like I’m trying too hard, but also, has made the other person feel uncomfortable in that they know they are not being listened to.

    Anyway, this is just a long-winded way to suggest being generous in your interactions, and not letting your nerves or anxiety drown out your generosity. It’s something I’m still working on too. Good luck!

  31. Start a little Have A Good One Project. Say it to people when you’re not working. Be observant of how people say ‘have a good one to you’. Just make a hard ass Sherlock level case out of figuring that shit out. You’ll figure it out.

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