Having a tough time agreeing on finances with fiancée. Problem is not just differences we can talk through but I get accused of being selfish and short sighted. We’re both in mid-30’s.
We are both high income earners, her at 500k/y and me at 750k/y. Our assets going in are $1.7M (me) and $1M (her). 90% of my assets are liquid stocks and bonds and 90% of her assets are homes, that her parents contributed to.
I already told her that after marriage I wanted our income would go into one pot, pay out expenses/mortgage, fund investments, then 50/50 to individual checking/fun money accounts, which she was happy with in case she cuts back on working.
With premarital assets, I said I was okay either keeping it separate or combining. She’s against combining, unless her homes are excluded since her parents contributed. If we kept separate, she wants me to transfer assets into our joint account to show I can “take care of her.” That doesn’t really seem fair to me? Dunno if I’m off base or what.