Me (25 f) and my boyfriend (28 m) have been together for 3 years, living together for 2 years. He’s my best friend and I love him dearly. I admire him and his charisma, and he involves me in every aspect of his life and brings me everywhere
I really enjoy listening to him and I thoroughly enjoy who he is and what he talks about. I also listen to clients every day for a living and never get asked questions about myself. I feel most of my life is 90% of every one else (in conversation)
Even though I really enjoy spending time with my boyfriend every waking moment, and listening to him talk about himself and going everywhere with his friends and family, sometimes I don’t feel heard.
I try to communicate this with him and im usually interrupted or he flat out doesn’t understand what I’m saying. I will say it in different contexts, like I would love if he could ask me questions and really be interested in what I say without me having to bring something up without being asked.
Whenever i do begin to talk about my life or an experience from my day, or my passions (I do have lots of goals and a huge passion for work and hobbies) I feel he’s not fully engaged or enthralled as I am with him. Eyes lingering towards the wall, and he changes the subject back to him.
TL;DR My (25 f) boyfriend (28 m) constantly talks about himself and doesn’t make me feel heard. I just had a meltdown because I tried to explain to him my concerns and he doesn’t understand and becomes defensive. I don’t know how to bring this up without being frustrated. I’ve brought this up multiple times throughout our relationship