We have been together for a year and a half and I recently found out that I am pregnant with our first child.
Since i was 12 I’ve collected a particular type of dolls and associated merchandise and I’m really passionate about it, I had a pretty extensive collection after 13 years! Obviously now that I’m not 12 anymore I don’t play with them, but I have a couple shelves in my office, a few of my favorites in the bedroom and a few on the bookshelf in the living room. He has room for his hobby stuff too 🙂
He has said before he thought they were more for kids, but at the same time, he’s bought me dolls, even helping me find rare ones at times so I thought he came around to them and I was surprised to find, after going to visit my dad for a few days, that he had gotten rid of my entire collection when I came back. Everything is gone. I haven’t stopped crying since I got back and we had the biggest fight. He said he made the decision because now that we’re having a baby it’s time for me to grow up and get rid of them, but he thought it would be easier on me if he did it when I wasn’t there. He says his intentions were good but I’m so, so devastated. I’ve never been more upset in my entire life.
My question is: how can I get over this and move past it, and stop feeling like this was a betrayal, since he says he meant it with good intentions? I’ve just never felt this sad in my whole life.
edit: to reduce the number of notifications in my phone when i go to sleep i’m logging out but will log back in tomorrow probably! i wanted to say thank you guys, without having posted i probably would have continued to be sad but never seen the situation in the light I see it now.
I have hope for the recovery of some of my beloved dolls if not all of them and I plan to approach that situation with some of the advice given here in hopes of recovery!