People. Just coz she’s waiting for marriage and/or is a virgin, it’s not that bad. Be strong. Patience gets rewarded. At least TRY to get to know her if what you want in life is a fulfilling relationship. I know, bla bla bla, sexual chemistry is so important and compatibility and we want it anyways. But if you really are fully in love and considerate, couldn’t you work with it? As long as you’re honest and work together to make it amazing, open to trying new things, understanding of no’s and being ok with those lines staying there forever should they come up, etc. Have those talks in detail before hand anyways. Those talks will reveal a lot of sexual compatibility that sex could be a deal breaker or not (aside from the fit). I don’t blame you, way more fun that way. And ok even if you disagree with that CONSIDER that not all of us are clueless about sex, some of us are very sexual, know what we want, and I mean I’ve waited over 20 years to have sex… trust me when I tell you it will be worth the wait. Like an animal breaking free from its cage. All that sexual tension released for you. Especially if we build that emotional bond too. Hon I will surprise you.
Just if she says she wants to wait however long work with her to wait that long. You will only turn her on more by helping her achieve that and respecting her wishes.
Just an unpopular opinion (:
For those of you completely not for it, alrighty enjoy the sex for me :p
Edit: I’m surprised by how many people who’ve had sex think all virgins have ZERO knowledge of likes, dislikes, kinks, deal breakers, etc. I’ve head of some virgins who don’t know where it goes but we’re not all like that, just because we’re a virgin doesn’t t mean I’m not sexually enlightened. I know what I like and not, and that will evolve and will be affected by the person. I guess it’s hard to explain to either perspective haha. The post was just me trying to ask for a chance for people who ghost after the “I’m a virgin” talk, that if you want a relationship and that the girl seems solid and healthy give her a chance instead of walking away just because you’re not getting laid, sex isn’t everything. So much angst in the sexual community geez.
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Why is the title “virgin tho”?
Actually men across cultures across timelines prefer virgins or less promiscuous women in general.
If you want him to stick around without having sex, and he already knows what half-decent sex is like, it’s on you to actually be someone that’s interesting, attractive, and desirable enough to convince him. Saying “just trust me” is some weak sauce.
Just find a guy that is also waiting until marriage and you won’t have this problem
How do you know if it would be worth it for the other person? You have no idea – you’ve never had sex. You don’t know if you’re into oral sex, anal, rough sex etc that the potential partner might be into, so you have no clue if it’s worth the wait for the other or if you’re compatible.. just cuz you’re horny isn’t enough to make it worth it. Everyone’s horny. This post is definitely written by a virgin who has no clue…
Not having sexual chemistry is a real thing no matter how much you love / enjoy the person. It’s not worth the wait for those who don’t care to wait until marriage.
>Patience gets rewarded.
How so? Not waiting for sex gets rewarded, BY HAVING SEX.
>sexual chemistry is so important and compatibility and we want it anyways. But if you really are fully in love and considerate, couldn’t you work with it?
No. It becomes obvious that you have no experience with sexualities at all.
>Those talks will reveal a lot of sexual compatibility that sex could be a deal breaker or not (aside from the fit).
If you never had sex, and i’d say you even need years of having sex, how do you communicate about your wants, needs and deal breakers? How do you know if you’d enjoy a special kink that is mandatory for your parnter to do? You can’t know if you will be encountering deal breakers and it’s stupid to artificially extend the time in which you don’t know if something will be the end of your relationship, if you could get that out of the way in the beginning/as fast as possible.
>and I mean I’ve waited over 20 years to have sex… trust me when I tell you it will be worth the wait. Like an animal breaking free from its cage. All that sexual tension released for you.
30% of US population had their first sex at age 20 or later. You are not special. And we can all remember our first time sex and it was NOT the most incredible release of a wild animal with sexual tension built over decades finally released in the best outburst of sexuality that you will ever encounter. In fact, i am SURE i can build up more sexual tension and have a greater sexual wild animal release within the course of an hour, than what you could build up during 2 decades. Because sexuality doesn’t work that way and it shows you have no idea.