we have been together for about two years.
i have my septum, dimples, and ears pierced. i’ve been looking at getting new piercings as i think it would add to my look.
i brought it up to my boyfriend and he didn’t like the idea and said he likes the piercings i have now. i acknowledged his opinions and thoughts.
i talked to my family and a couple friends about it and they said they support me getting new piercings.
i told my boyfriend i might get them anyway and then he started to make a big situation about it. saying that i’m being disrespectful, that i’ll have consequences and that he has feelings too.
i listened to everything he had to say. including how he said that this means he can do whatever he wants as well. i said to go ahead as long as he doesn’t cheat or anything like that obviously.
he continued saying how my mindset will destroy our relationship, how we are one not two, how he works his ass off only to be told these things and to show him some respect, that i’m changing the way i look and it matters to him, and that we have no boundaries at all and thats it’s not healthy and he doesn’t want to live like this. over me wanting piercings.
i’m starting to feel like he’s trying to control me. he’s in the military and i told him not to bring his military mindset into our relationship because i won’t stand for it. how he’s demanding respect and all. but honestly, i don’t feel very respected by him.
i’m just wondering if he’s in the right or i am?
tl;dr: my boyfriend doesn’t want me to get piercings and is being fussy about it.