I am a 30 (M). I am warm and tend to smile a lot. I have not had that socialization as an individual. I was a nerd for most of childhood with no friends. During teenage, same story. I have done well for myself professionally and one can even say I am a success story (with a brighter future I have been told [I am not bragging, this is for context]).
I have however from time to time being given a look that I think communicates that I have a creep from people. Fortunately, my few friends (from high school) have always gone to bat for me and fix my reputation. At work, colleagues have tried to bully me and damage my reputation because I say things they perceive to be creepy (fortunately, a few closer colleagues have always asked follow up questions to determine what I mean exactly).
What are some general topic areas to avoid as a male, and how do I avoid coming off as creepy in general?
I am a pleasant individual and do not want my life derailed because people think I am creepy. Thanks for any insights!
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I’m not going to try to decipher what type of person you are from this post, but I feel like you’re not mentioning something here. Because I do similar things that you’ve described but I’ve encountered none of the issues that you have. Something that stands out to me is that you’re describing yourself as a pleasant individual. Again, I won’t say whether or not you are one, but I think if your experiences with others are different to your expected outcomes based on your perception of yourself, then maybe there’s a bit of a disconnect between reality and what’s going on in your mind.