Blank mind in convosations

A lot of people seem to struggle with this, I wounder if there’s a way to fix it? Looking up tips like “ask questions! plan out the interaction! Just be urself and relax lol” is cool and all, but with the first two tips it personally never leads to genuine connection, and instead leads to a very forced interaction and ofc the last one is far easier said then done. I feel like my social skills would boost by a good 30 percent if this could be fixed, any tips?