I do care for him and love him deeply. We have not been doing well for at least a year. He’s turned into a zero effort guy, we don’t have dates, we are barely affectionate, he’s not very complimentary anymore. I don’t think physically i have changed drastically to warrant the lack of kind words and affection.
We’ve started arguing over very dumb things and this last one is why i’m asking for a wtf am i supposed to do.
a week or so ago i put chewing gum into my old water bottle in fiancés passenger door and truthfully forgot about it and forgot to toss it when we got home.
flash forward to yesterday he drank it. he was very upset i put gum in there and blamed me for him drinking it. he didn’t take 1 sip. he took a sip thought it was weird and continued drinking. this is a clear water bottle
we are driving and essentially he’s getting more and more upset bc i don’t feel deeply apologetic when it was my old water bottle and he has eyes and continued to drink it. voices were raised and i kept saying sorry it was gross. he told me this wasn’t a real apology. i then tried reminding him when this started he told me verbatim that a ‘sorry that was gross’ was warranted and that he did aknowledge it was my old water bottle and there is some personal responsibility for drinking it.
he jumped out of my moving car. quite literaly. he’s fine but what the fuck.
this seems like a severe over reaction and i do believe he’s this affected because of something else but he won’t share it.
i haven’t talked to him and am waiting to talk to my therapist first but what the actual fuck.
the cherry on top is i am being blamed for him jumping. he claims he had no other choice.