My husband 32M and I 30F have been married for three years. we come from different religious backgrounds. Despite our differences. Our relationship has always been strong and most of his family has been incredibly kind and respectful of my beliefs.
I always make an effort to blend in with his family lifestyle. I cook their favorite dishes when they visit including those with pork and keep their favorite drinks stocked. I’ve learned their preferences and try to make them feel at home. Most of them appreciate this and are considerate of my choices in return.
my SIL. My husband’s older sister doesn't. Whenever she come over. She forgets my dietary restrictions. She’ll pour me a glass of wine despite knowing I don’t drink and urge me to try it. Or when she invite us. She’ll serve most dishes with pork and tell me to try it and act surprised when I remind her I can’t eat it. I’ve talked to her about this multiple times. But she always plays it off like it’s an innocent mistake or says "Oh my bad" but then does it again the next time.
Lately she's been making comments about my lifestyle choices saying I’m not fun and such. It’s starting to affect my husband’s relationship with her. He loves his sister a lot and feels caught in the middle. I don’t want to be the reason they argue but I also don’t want to keep feeling disrespected.
I’ve tried to handle this privately with her but it hasn’t worked. My husband has also talked to her but she brushes him off too. I’m at a loss for what to do next. How to approach this situation the right way? I don't want to cause a bigger problem in the family. Should I confront her more firmly? Also I'm not a native speaker.