Using a burner/alt because he follows my main reddit, I don't want him seeing this. Also It's kind of embarrassing to talk about.
Over the past week, both my boyfriend and I have been basically free from any responsibilities. Because of this, we've been pretty sexually active lately. He was talking to me about some of his kinks, and I don't want to kink shame but I'm unsure what to think about them.
It started off with light bondage, like tying my hands with ribbon or handcuffing me. I'm personally pretty vanilla but I didn't mind this. He also talked about some of his other kinks like tickling, which seems wholesome and fun, but he told me he likes it 'because of the begging'. I feel like ever since then It's gotten ever further extreme. He tells me that he loves to hear me 'beg for mercy' or 'make me squirm' which is what kind of drew the line for me.
Yesterday afternoon, he wanted me to put handcuffs on and beg while he tickled me. I told him I didn't want to and he asked why. I told him I didn't like his kinks and he told me I'm being toxic and should accept him for who he is. The weird thing is that his personality is funny and cheerful, you wouldn't expect him to like that kind of stuff. Are these red flags or just basic kinks? I'm genuinly scared at this point. I love him but he worries me during sex.
TLDR: My boyfriend likes for me to beg during sex and plead with him. Are these red flags?